Friday, 13 April 2012


Used Love
by Arhata
September 25, 2011

Second hand emotion? Love’s got a lot to do with people’s joy of life even if it’s not returned, or broken.  Love that comes from the mind primarily, really is ‘used love’ that may reach levels of ‘barely audible’ on the richter scale of ‘love’s measurement’, or just benign love. It’s sad, and at the same time amusing how so many claim love so frivolously, and show actions as quickly to demonstrate a very thin veiled love that covers up varying degrees of anger and self loathing. I have a relative, who clearly doesn’t love herself, tells me she love’s me, and insists that I return the words!

‘Used love’ has more than one side. Using love to curry some kind of response or favor is love that’s been ‘used’ for the wrong reasons. Perhaps it could be called an ‘abusive love’, or abuse of the real meaning of a deep feeling of joy, gratefulness, compassion, and sheer warmth of the being. The word ‘love’ has many levels of conveying a thought all the way to a deep unconditional feeling. Abuse of the word, in my mind, is to spread it far and wide with little regard for it’s unconditional meaning, or even if you have little regard for your inner self.

‘Flash love’ happens arbitrarily when someone gets a momentary, but rare, spike in their feelings that is nice but much like a bubble floating in the air - pretty, then it bursts into nothingness. Flash love is just a glimpse that is conditional upon the intended recipient being what the giver expects. Better to use a ‘flash of love’ than a flash of any negativity. One moment of love can last for a lifetime as can a moment of negativity. Choose, but choose to become love’s positivity. 

Love only grows in strength when ‘used’, and used consistently. Be the bridge from cold unconcern to the dawning of a path of love. The dawn of love is not far away, make every effort to bring it closer. Be the bridge between humanity and the dawning of a new and loving humanity. A more beautiful and blissful existence is within your grasp. Leave the past behind, and move into a fulfillment of love and compassion. Make living an art and the whole aim putting together the fragments that have shattered, and make yourself whole. No division or dualities are necessary. Enjoy your life with no fears, and with a wholeheartedness. Use the heart of love opened wide to shine the light on a path of a journey into life and other’s lives, spreading bliss.

"There is no path to truth, it must come to you. Truth can come to you only when your mind and heart are simple, clear, and there is love in your heart; not if your heart is filled with the things of the mind. When there is love in your heart, you do not talk about belief, you do not talk about division or the powers that create division, you need not seek reconciliation. Then you are a simply a human being without a label, without a country. This means that you must strip yourself of all those things and allow truth to come into being; and it can come only
when the mind is empty, when the mind ceases to create. Then it will come without your invitation. Then it will come as swiftly as the wind and unbeknown. It comes obscurely, not when you are watching, wanting.
It is there as sudden as sunlight, as pure as the night; but to receive it, the heart must be full and the mind empty. Now you have the mind full and your heart empty" - J. Krishnamurti.


With my friendshipSADRU RAJWANI


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